Are you aware of the fact that you have control over your emotional states?
We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong.
Yes, there are external influences that can pose an immediate threat to you, or things happen in your life that shake you to the core.
Please do remember that you do have a choice on how you respond internally.
We are responsible for our emotional health. We have to learn how to manage it, so our sense of wellbeing doesn't get pushed around like a pinball.
We’ll always be challenged by life, by the people in it and by circumstances.
Whatever you feel in your body right now, whatever manifested as an emotional response, maybe a constricting feeling in your chest, a nervous feeling in your tummy area - become present and tell yourself that this is temporary.
Acknowledge the feeling, always, and then know it’s temporary. We’re all preaching happiness as to say that we should never feel challenged.
As if everything has to always unfold smoothly for us. Everything has to be effortless and pain-free.
The truth is that it’s intrinsic to our human existence to feel pain and to be pushed to our limits. If you can accept the pain you feel and can frame it in a way where you can appreciate it as being part of you then you're one step closer to be truly liberated.
Do you think you can do that? Can you practice this?
Letting go of the elusive notion that everything has to always be positive and turn out the way you want it to?
Don’t fool yourself and look to others assuming they are experiencing perpetual bliss in their lives - they are not. I can assure you of that!
It’s about balance in life and pursuing happiness is great, but only if you are able to put things into perspective and get real with yourself and the world.
When I was very sick and challenged in my life I was looking up into the sky clamoring “Why do I have to go through this?” “Why me?”.
What I didn’t know at this time is that it was a sure sign that I hadn't learned the lesson yet. When we start to make an effort and stop blaming things and people on the outside, we’re on our way to more self-insight and self-reflection which ultimately course corrects us on our path to growing more in our overall consciousness and holistic view of the world.
Remember every time you find yourself ruminating, your mind produces endless loops of recurring thought patterns that forge strong neural pathways in your nervous system which in turn trigger an emotional response in your body.
So the more you are on “autopilot”, the less present and aware you are in difficult times, the more buildup and more conditioning there will be.
If you look at it like a seesaw and the goal is to achieve balance, you have to create a counterweight to the problem-based thinking and this is to tell your mind that everything is ok, right here and right now.
You’re in a room, you’re not cold, you have food and shelter.
Putting things into perspective is so powerful as it allows you to see that the thoughts and emotional responses are mostly inadequate and not appropriate.
You’re still breathing, it’s temporary and this will pass! Does this make sense?
“The present moment is all we’ll ever have”, is a good reminder.
Worrying about the past and anticipating the future fuels anxious feelings that are based on past experiences and assumptions about what’s going to happen. In the present moment, we’re ok, we’re doing fine.
Worrying mostly stems from incessant thinking, and most importantly allowing ourselves to think the same thoughts over and over again.
Can you be a detective in your mind and uncover your thought patterns?
You can use a journal to practice more presence and use the journal as a thought-diary where you group thoughts and label them. This is great to shed light on your dominant thoughts and it slows down your mind activity drastically.
What do you think?
Do you realize that you have the potential to feel free and present, and be open, right here, right now if you make a conscious choice to release the worries?
Founder of Moonsun Malibu