We are often caught up in the minutia of our daily routines and duties and we don’t really have the time to sit back and evaluate all aspects of our life. Agreed?
However, reflecting on our life enables us to put things into perspective and to course correct. It puts us back into the driver’s seat and we can be proactive about the direction we are going. We can assess our relationships with ourselves and others, our work and our spiritual path.
1) Light conquers darkness
We’re bombarded with negative news from all directions. Attacks, shootings, tragedies.
It’s hard to ignore and turn a blind eye but what we can do is, we can choose how we respond to those external things on the inside.
Do we follow the first emotional impulse that comes up and feed into the negativity or do we take a step back and make a conscious choice and effort to not respond fearful or stressed or frustrated?
If there’s one thing that history has told us, it’s that you cannot eliminate war by instigating another war.
Negativity breeds more negativity.
Anger breeds more anger and fear creates more fear. Don’t mistake this behavior with ignorance and letting things go unnoticed, no, it’s about the deliberate effort and the deeper understanding that only light can conquer darkness.
Only light can bring change. Focus on nurturing your light is the noblest and most powerful thing you can ever do. You affect all people that come in contact with you. The ripple goes out into the world and it fuels connection rather than separation.
2) Acceptance of what is
The sooner you can make peace with all the puzzle pieces of your life that you don’t like, the sooner you’ll move forward and project those things into the future that you really want.
There are so many things that happen to us that are very hard to accept.
I was there way too often, numbing down my feels, ignoring the fact that I’m stuck on this path. It’s ok to not feel good or feel dissatisfied with circumstances but it’s not ok to complain and never change a thing.
Face your challenges head-on, become fully aware of them and take deliberate action. It’s our limiting beliefs that often times keep us trapped on one trajectory. Once you fully accept what is, you become empowered and can change it.
3) You are fully responsible
Only you are fully responsible for your life.
Does this notion make you uncomfortable?
It certainly made me feel uncomfortable as I could always pinpoint exactly who did what to me: “People mistreated and misunderstood me”. “And you are saying I have to take full responsibility for those things that clearly aren’t my fault?”
It took me a long time to come to grips with this concept, this idea
I was able to intellectualize it but hey, really accepting it and coming to terms with all things, events and the people emotionally, was quite a journey - a very liberating at that.
A journey that led to a deeper understanding of the fact that I am the only one that will ever be able to control my own thinking, doing and feeling.
Looking for fault on the outside is merely a deflection. Some things that happened to us may have scarred us emotionally. Hoping for the external world to remedy what had happened is a big loss of control and will never serve us.
Taking on full responsibility for ourselves is the only way that empowers us and puts us in control.
4) You’re annoyed by your own reflection
Are you frustrated by the behavior of others? Are you pissed off when someone cuts you off in traffic?
The anger and frustration is an immediate reflection.
We can only live in denial for so long. Most of us are pushed to a point where we’re forced to see things and are willing to take a closer look at our behavior.
We then can observe that it’s our very own internal state that gets triggered and that we express outwardly in the world.
Why do the same things annoy the sh*t out of you today but then on the next day you don't even notice them, or at least your response and reaction is a different one?
I still catch myself falling into this pattern of getting all riled up but then my awareness kicks in and I can balance things out and I can put things into perspective.
This can give you so much peace. This brings peace to your body and your mind. This is huge!
Even in your head, if you catch yourself thinking about others, criticizing them or comparing them to you, ask yourself, is there something I need to be aware of and learn about myself? How can I grow and develop from here?
5) You are important
Yes, you are. You do matter to those around you and you and your potential matter to the world.
You are special and unique; you have talents and skills, and experience only you can draw from. They are given to you for a reason.
Even if you don’t see your light just yet and the power and impact you can have on this world - just realizing and eventually knowing that you matter alone will put you in a position where you can re-think and re-structure your beliefs and perceptions.
Nurture the belief that you matter greatly because you do – you’re friggin’ awesome!
Founder of Moonsun Malibu